I wanted to finish this article I was writing from https://www.lifeofaweirdo.com/stepford-life-part-1/ I ended it talking about a surgery I had and my ex-husband could have cared less about the aftercare I needed and instead left and went on a mini-vacation. He is the type of guy that if he wanted sex and you were super sick, he would make the crass but serious comments like “well your mouth is still working” as if I should give him a freakin blow job.

Our daughter one day just started passing out and I was freaked out. I would bring her to only for her to faint again. I called him and so worried and upset that I was taking her to the ER. He couldn’t be bothered to go, nor did he call to check up on her

My elderly grandmother was losing her eyesight and other health issues. I thought since I was staying home at the time and we had the extra room that she could come to stay with us. My ex wanted to charge her 1000.00 a month.

Then another big issue happened. I was on several different medicines for my thyroid, allergies, allergy injections, migraines, cholesterol, and those type things. I went to see my doc about sleep issues I was having and she put me on Adderall. I trusted I knew what she was doing. Within 2 months I was dropping weight like crazy and crying all the time. I went back and told her something isn’t right. But, I am going to but to the chase with this. She wasn’t doing things she was supposed to monitor this medicine and I did my own research. Turns out she should have never put me on it and it was interacting with other medications.

But, she said with that medicine you can’t just come off it. You have to be weaned off. And to do that you have to go to a psychiatrist who knows how and can monitor you. The bad news was in my insurance network it would be months until I could get an appointment. My ex-husband never asked what was going on and if I talked to him, he would say I was just sad to basically get over it. This situation got much worse and it would take from MAY 2011 when I started Adderall until March 2014 to feel normal again.

I realized with all these things and much more what a horrible person he was and in 2012 I told him I wanted a divorce. Of course, as a stay at home mom, I had no income of my own. I couldn’t get a lawyer and was basically screwed out of everything. He was making around 60,000.00 at the time and I had to sign away my rights to any pension etc. just to get the divorce. He always said, “we have lawyers at work at the Sheriff’s office, I talked to them.” I had been under medical duress and he bullied me through the divorce. I agreed just to get away from him. Not to mention in the last year of our marriage there is evidence that he may have been having an affair. I did get enough to live on for 1 year for my daughter and I. But for almost 20 years of marriage, I have nothing to show for it but my daughter. No property, no pension..nothing. He lives in a half-million dollar home with a new truck and a boat and a full pension.

People were shocked that we divorced, of course, I played the perfect wife to keep his image intact, our livelihood depended on it. But, I do have my freedom as of December 2012. And I am starting over.